Buying a house is the beginning of a life dream. Selling a house is the end of one. Many home sales are triggered by normal life transitions:

  • Seeking more space, often for positive reasons, such as wanting more room for children.
  • Seeking less space, often for conservation of either maintenance effort or money.
  • Following new opportunities in another region or country.

Many home sales are triggered by negative events.

  • Death: one or more of the owners died and the property is being sold by the heirs.
  • Divorce: neither member of the couple wants or is able to keep the marital home.
  • Debt: the owners cannot keep up with their mortgage debt.

One of the joys of being an exclusive buyer’s agent is that we don’t represent people who are coping with the dissolution of a home. We only see it from the other side of the transaction. When negative events trigger the sale, we and our clients sometimes feel the shock wave of the emotions involved. It is most common in divorce; that’s when people who are angry at one another are making a high-impact economic decision together.

Does negative energy stay in a house?

In 2014, my clients and I were in a house that “felt” terribly wrong. Objectively, it was a good house at a very good price. It was a modern build on a flat lot; it had lots of light, no weird additions, no distracting decoration. It was being lived in; nothing seemed amiss.  But, from the minute we walked into the kitchen, we felt something wrong with it.

My clients made an offer; the price was really good! After having their offer accepted by the wife, but not the husband, my clients chose to not buy that house. One owner was sabotaging the sale so he could postpone the divorce that he didn’t want. It was over a year later that this house sold to another family.

Whether a house can keep energy from the people before is a matter of belief that is personal. Some people are sensitive to this energy; others think it doesn’t exist.

Everyone can feel a difference when a house has been cleaned or aired out – whether it is your new house or one you’ve been living in a while. For most new owners, it is sufficient to clean the house and move in. Once the boxes are unpacked, it’ll feel like home. A cleansing goes deeper to rid a house of the leftover feel of the previous owners.

The recipe for cleaning  and cleansing a house:

When I was working with those clients trying to buy that divorce house in 2014, I asked around for someone who knew how to cleanse a house from the anger that we felt. I consulted Vincent Russo about how to clean the weird energy out of that divorce house.

Monday was the Spring Equinox. We are headed into the lighter and warmer time of the year. Most people are at home more often now than before the pandemic. If your house needs cleansing, this is a good time to get started, because open-window season is just around the corner.

The spiritual practice of cleansing takes a few minutes a week. Vinnie’s ritual is this.

The physical cleaning comes from Yummy Life.

You can make a supply of cleaner that is non-toxic, cleans great and smells great by using the recipe below:

vinegarNatural Citrus Vinegar Cleaners By Monica


  • Distilled white vinegar (or as pure alcohol as you can get)
  • Citrus peels — lemons, oranges, limes, grapefruit
  • Herbs — rosemary, thyme, & mint
  • Spices– whole cinnamon & cloves
  • Extracts–vanilla, almond, mint
  • Essential oils (optional)


Make the scented vinegar concentrate:

Use a 2 quart jar or sealable container. Add citrus peels, spices, herbs, and extracts (see suggested combinations below). Pour in enough vinegar to cover completely (approx. 5-6 cups). Cover tightly and let sit for at least 2 weeks (or as long as 1 month), shaking the jar every few days to redistribute contents. Strain liquid and store in covered jar or container for up to 1 year.

Diluting the concentrate for use:

Mix in a spray bottle using 1/3 cup scented vinegar concentrate for each 2/3 cups water. Add 3-4 drops essential oils or 1/2 to 1 teaspoon extract to enhance scent, if desired. Shake and use for cleaning most surfaces. Not recommended for granite or marble surfaces.

rosemary sprigsVinegar citrus combinations:

  1. Orange Spice. 4-6 cinnamon sticks, 1-2 tablespoons whole cloves, and 1 tablespoon almond extract, enough orange peels to fill jar.
  2. Lemon Rosemary. 3-4 large rosemary sprigs, 1 tablespoon vanilla extract, enough lemon peels to fill jar.
  3. Lime Thyme. 6 sprigs thyme, enough lime peels to fill jar.
  4. Grapefruit Mint. 8 large sprigs of mint (or 1 tablespoon mint extract), enough grapefruit peels to fill jar.  [source]

Happy spring!